By Kipkorir B Bett
What is Relationship?
According to Google Relationship is the way in which two or
more people or things are connected, or the state of being connected. To my understanding the Key word is
CONNECTION, so before the Connection occurred there was no Connection. Before
two became connected there is a bond created and later a decision is drawn to
engage in a relationship. As we draw down to understand that there is a bond
being created in a Relationship, lets also consider the term TOXIC which simply
Mean Poisonous.
We are now convinced that indeed Toxic Relationship starts
from somewhere then it then becomes dangerous. An expert Lillian Glass,
who claims to have coined the term “toxic relationship” in a 1995 book, says
that a toxic relationship is one in which the partners compete, disrespect, or
seek to undermine each other. This tells that this period the partners behaves
in a unhealthy manner and they treat each other in a disrespectful ways.
Campus is a period one acquires skills before He or She is
employed and later becomes a Responsible Adult who is now meant to be Dependent.
And at that time after Campus the person may marry or even get married. This
simply mean that there must be a relationship created before one decides to be
with the person as a wife or husband through a legal way, Marriage.
Why do Young people engage in a relationship?
- o Peer pressure.
- o Anxiety on relationship experience.
- o Loneliness and company seeking.
- o Age pressure towards marriage.
- o Financial support.
There are so many reasons that may cause on to decide to
date of engage in a relationship only to mention a few. But the big Question is, How do we treat along the relationship so as to make it useful?
There are
incident cases where the Man ends up killing the lady or even the Vice Versa is
true. For Example, The Late Ivy Wangeci a 6th Year at Moi University
was brutally killed by her boyfriend in Eldoret on a day light. Apart
from the late Ivy story we have seen several incidents where two separate and
one end up killing himself or herself. There are also cases where there are fights
among them that cause lifetime injuries.
Some of the causes that may lead to a toxic relationship
are:
- ü Unfaithfulness among the Courtship partners.
- ü Financial Issues.
- ü Lack of trust.
We can stop this from happening by talking about it and letting
the young people know that it is not a matter of life and death. There is always
life after the break up. And one is also supposed to come up and talk and not
feel ashamed to.
A therapist once said “A Good relationship should empower you
to take on things outside of your relationship. All relationships have their
moments of drama, but if your relationship is taking more energy than it’s
giving to you, it may be time to reevaluate”
LETS TALK ABOUT IT TO HELP OUR BROTHERS AND SISTERS.
REFERED PHOTOS AND RESEARCH TO:
https://www.talkspace.com/blog/am-i-in-toxic-relationship/
